This past weekend I went to my favorite play party. I had a wonderful time but it made me do some thinking. One of the events at the party was called the Puppy Pile. The purpose of the puppy pile is to pass out birthday licks but the subs are the one’s taking the licks.
The rules are as followed.
1. All of the sub are to lay face down in the center of the room.
2. All of the Tops are to make a circle around the subs.
3. The only toy to be used were floggers, no dragon tails, no whips or canes. You can not switch toys once it starts. The host or hostess makes the time limit.
4. If the Top or sub reach their limit and get out of the pile you cannot return.
We started out with five subs and about ten Tops. By the time the hostess said stop there were only three of us left. I was one of the three. I was very happy that I made it to the end… 🙂
It got me thinking about how I felt about being flogged or being spanked. I know that some people do not think that there is much of a difference, you are getting hit with an item both ways. Some people will say that being flogged is just as intimate as being spanked. But to tell the truth being spanked is very personal for me. If I am in some type of relationship with a person such as DD/lg or play partners, there is a big difference to me. If my Daddy wants to flog me then that is for Him. Yes, I will get something out of the flogging. One I am pleasing Him. Two I will get to fly. With both of those covered I will be happy because He has release some stress and made me fly, to me that is a win.
I know that what I am about to say some people will not like but here I go. If I have asked one of my friends to be my Play partner of a scene of flogging it is all about me. I am being selfish for two reasons. 1. I have not played in a while and I want to stop myself from go into a frenzy. 2. I am looking for a sensual flogging or a thuddy flogging. Most of the time there is one woman who I know that can do both. She will ask me which one I am in need of, once we have gotten that out-of-the-way. The scene will start.
I have learned that to me being spanked is very intimate. I have been asked to go spanking parties but I cannot do it. I have been in relationships where spanking were used in two ways : 1. As punishment 2. To reinforce intimacy
For me it worked because it was a way to be close and to correct my behavior. The Sir I , was always busy with work or taking care of his extended family, so to made our time together very limited. We would talk on the phone or send emails. But He knew that I would need that physical contact before we would do anything sexual. Most of the time it would be a just because spanking. There were times that I would have a temper tantrum because it has been far too long. I can deal with not see my Sir for a couple of weeks but longer than that I act out. What I mean by act out is I will break a minor rule or I will tell him that I cursed someone out. When I know that He expects me to carry myself like a lady at all times even when someone causes me to get angry.
There is an element of care and concern to spanking for me. To be over my Sir/Daddy’s knee is very personal. That is done in private. If it is done in public as a scene I would have to be on a spanking bench. That way in my mind it keeps it from being personal. It will be a show of power exchange not an invasion of our private time.
I know that some will read this and not understand what I mean but you must understand that I am a little was well a submissive.
Thank you for reading this note from the mind of an Imp.